Girl is a Dime Piece

I posted the following status on my Facebook page.

When I see a 10+ girl, who just by all rights is the most beautiful woman in the world, I naturally think the worst of her in every way. Slut, retarded, selfish, cheater, shallow, annoying, and probably the worst woman in the world to be with. 

I got the two responses I expected, the guys agreed, the girls did not. Through the conversation other things came to light about personality, being shallow, self esteem and things like that. So I have now been motivated to blog about it in general, and as of right now I am not real sure where this blog is going but it should be interesting. What I plan to do is take some of the comments and speak to them in detail.

** during this I am excluding any famous people such as actresses and singers. I am referring only to the people you see at a bar, Target, in school or a place to eat. Just the average person.**

In my opinion, a girl who is a 10 based on nothing but looks...

Are typically bitches. Btw the first girl, amazing (talking look only right now) but falls right into the previous stated status above. I am willing to bet she is a shallow slut. She would only be around girls that look like her and think she is better than everybody else in the world. 

Now lets focus on just looks for a moment. Yes that girl is beautiful there is nobody that would argue. But the "good guys" would rather have a girl that is real. A girl that has a personality, who is smart, and most of all, grounded. A girl that has self esteem, but not to the point where she thinks she deserves Zeus. Mostly, those girls are what society would call "thick" or fat if you will. Those are the type of looks only that I would go for. I do not want them so skinny I will break their back like Bane when I give them a hug. But I want my hands to be able to touch when they go around her back. Such as...

Minus the Alabama jersey of course. Society would think the girl above is a bit overweight, a muffin top, chunky... or a number of other things. However, this is a great body style. Now guys, take your focus off her face and breasts..... ok, you done yet? She is not skinny like magazines and TV tells us women need to be. She is not fat, or BBW, or overweight. Matter of fact she is very beautiful. She has meat on her bones and is thick, they way a real woman is. Now, I want to get off just the looks portion and get into self esteem.

When a guy rates a girl 1-10 looks are only the first part, assuming we have never met the girl. Self esteem and personality go a long way. In fact, much further than looks. If the girl is dumber than a bag of rocks, she can dropped from a 7 to a 3. If she has no self esteem, that drops you too, along with sense of humor, outlook on life and a number of things. I want to dig deeper into self esteem. but first I will share this fast story about why i will be so hard on this issue. I am 5'9, I weigh 210 lbs. I am not fat, I am not a skinny tone guy. I have a beer gut, but I am in shape. For Halloween I plan on wearing a full, skin tight spandex costume that will highlight my gut. I will be doing multiple activities in town dressed like this, and do not care that people will think, "wtf is he thinking that's gross" Why? because I know I am an attractive dude. 

I know girls with low... crippling self esteem and I have no effing clue why. I am going to talk about 2 different ladies right now that will encompass every girl in the world. The first, super skinny girl like the first 2 pictures. The second, a "thick" girl like the one in the jersey. 

This girl is very skinny, and very beautiful. She works out every day and eats very little. Is on a diet to lose more weight. If she did she would weight 12 lbs soaking wet. But she thinks she is not beautiful. Guys have told her to lose more weight. These are the type of guys that only go after the first pictured girl, and would never give the jersey girl a shot in hell. I have told her that she should eat more. She is a very beautiful girl, and the personality involved with everything easily ranks her between a 7-8. This is just on the guy scale, on the personal scale she would be a 10. 

The second girl is much like the jersey girl, and covers most women in the world with low self esteem. No you are not skinny. You will not fit into a size 0, 1, 2, 3 maybe even 456 jeans. (I have no clue what those sizes actually are) but that does not mean you are not a high ranking just on looks. The girls I know that fall into this category also have some of the best personalities. Another easy 10 on my personal scale for reasons other than just looks. But based on society they would be a 6... maybe. In my experience and opinion, the thick girls are the best ones to have. 

The point of self esteem: you create your own. I hate when i see girls like the jersey girl, or my skinny friend mentioned above with low self esteem. There is no reason for it. My mentor has taught me that self esteem is created by yourself. So to all the girls like the jersey girl (I know a lot of you), stop beating down on yourself. If you want to be happy then do it. That is the harsh reality. I mentioned I have a gut which most girls do not think is attractive, but I would talk to any girl, and walk around shirtless at the beach because I know I am a good lookin dude, and I don't give a shit about the people who think otherwise. 

Along with this issue came came single mothers. Not sure how though so I want to chime in on this as well. It is easier to get a date when you are single with no kids than single with kids. This is just a fact. There is nothing wrong with single mothers though. From my standpoint it is good and bad for both parties. lets focus on the bad. When I start to date a girl, I already have to fight with the everyday life for her attention and time to start building a relationship. Kids just add to the battle. I am told by everyone I know that I am great with kids, even though they are super annoying. so that is not my issue, but I like to get out and have fun doing anything, and single moms just can not do that. I feel like we lose out on that part of the relationship. We also have to deal with any baby-daddy issues. Screw that man, not worth it. Also we always have in the back of our head, what if this pans out, I gotta be a dad for these kids. It could also mean in some situations, I will never have a kid of my own now since we will have her kids. I have dated a single mother before, and yes it had its complications and no it did not work out, but not because of her being a mother. I would date a single mother again in the future, but I would make clear to her although I do not want to be more important attention wise to her children, I do not want to be put on the back burner. It is a two way street, you try to make time to build a relationship, and i am 1 million percent ok with you canceling plans for your child, or not being able to join me for something because you do not have a baby sitter.

However on the positive side of things:

-- for the girl: if you are a single mother and start dating a guy that is ok with you having children. If he sticks around, you know you have a good guy. He is willing to accept all of that. This should take out most of your debating on if you should stay with him or not. Single women with no kids do not have this advantage. 

-- for the guy: we know about the previous statement.

I think I have lost the point I want to get across here. If I see a girl in the bar who is like the first two pictures, sure I would love to be in their company and be seen with them and probably take them home and never call again. They are super beautiful girls... but that is typically where the good stuff ends. They are whores, and mean, shallow, surrounded by drama, and just a pain in the ass high maintenance. Obviously this is not true for everyone. I know a few girls that based off looks alone are 10's, and they are some of the most humble, fantastic girls in the world. But they are the 1%. Take the opposite of that, girls like the one pictured in the jersey, most guys would go for the 10's above them, but in reality, those are the girls to take.

To the ladies who are involved in the creation of this blog. If you read this, I want you to know that you are all beautiful. You are all of the things  a good guy looks for. A couple of you even have that good guy. Others are still looking. I do not want to say just "let yourself go" because when a girl does that she looks like a -12, but do not put all of your focus on looks. It is only the first step. You are all beautiful and can easily get any guy you wanted... the bigger issue is what kind of guy do you want, and what kind of guy are you chasing. Normally they are two different guys. 

I am sure I will want to edit this, or continue this in another blog somehow. Please one way or another leave a comment about this one. I can take it.

*****And any guy that reads this and disagrees and thinks the first 2 pictures are the real winners, you are probably a bigger douche than Hitler and Casey Anthonys love child.... if she didn't kill it. But seriously  go fuck yourself 3 ways from yesterday.****

The Meat Hammer

The Bully Post

Let me start by saying most of you will be angry at this, some will be surprised, and a select few will agree.

Before I dive into this I want to make very clear, I feel sympathy for kids who get bullied, it sucks. I would never wish for kids to be beat up, depressed suicidal, or anything that comes along with it. Suicide is also something that I am strongly against, I have known many people who have done this to themselves, and many friends who have suffered from it. I have a brother in arms that did this and it kills me to know it happens. I really can not stress these points enough before you read this.

Kids get bullied for a number of reasons, being fat, poor and can't afford the cool clothes, being gay, being mentally ill, having a disorder, stuttering, being a nerd or geek, being a slut, making the wrong popular kid angry, being weak, and a million more. Now kids are getting to the point where they kill themselves or others. This is just sick.... but not for the reason you may think.

Up until the 6th grade I had a great childhood involving school. It was super easy to make friends, nobody really fought or picked on me. In fact, while at I.L. Branch Elementary in California I had a smokin hot girlfriend lol. I kid you not. Then we moved to Alabama and I joined HG middle school for the 6th grade. My entire school experience changed then and lasted until high school graduation. I have no clue why I was one of the kids singled out but I was. For 6 years I was called gay, pushed around, shoved into lockers, beat up, beat up by girls, called every name in the book, the end of every joke, very few friends, always picked last for group sports, even when I was last the team did not want me, in high school (even though I thought I was pretty good) I was singled out when playing football in ROTC, I ran to my next class my freshmen year because I was the guy they wanted in the dumpster on freshmen Friday, all of the things that kids deal with today, I got also. Yes social media as well, I was around for MySpace. I was bullied everyday for 6 years. I wanted to play sports so bad in high school, but I never would because all the guys on the football team were the ones that would beat me up.  I would cry myself to sleep at times, I would beg God to make it stop, even get angry at him for making me go through it. I soon realized that would not happen, and began to embrace the fact that I was unpopular and began to have fun with it. I would give them reasons to laugh at me and somehow that made me feel OK about it all. So I know what it is like to be that kid, and that is why I can say that kids today are too weak minded to handle being picked on, and that is what is sick about bullying.

I now have 2 associates degrees and working on my bachelors, I am building on a second career, I am a decorated NCO in the worlds greatest Air Force, I have fought in a war, I have been around the country and outside of it seeing and doing great things, I own my home and land, I have experienced things that 80% of my graduating class has not, and all of this because I did not kill myself, or the kids who pushed me around.

Now I am friends with most of the people I went to school with, those same guys that would push me around and call me names. We are all older now, and all of that is in the past. If anybody would ever try to apologize to me for it, and they have, I would tell them to stop, because really, I should thank them for making me the man I am today.

Society today has made kids weak minded. I am tired of seeing and hearing all of this anti bully BS. All of these kids hurting themselves, committing suicide and hurting others because they are picked on. They took the weak way out. And I feel strongly that if they didn't do something to themselves now, then later on when they could do more then they would. For example shoot up an office, set off a bomb, become a serial killer, or any number of violent horrific things that they could do when they are adults. It is probably a good thing they are not alive now, it saved more lives in the future. Harsh I know, but I am a realist. Killing yourself or others is a choice, and it is the wrong choice, theses kids were too weak to suck it up and make something of themselves. That is the sad part, these kids could have used all of the negativity and done some amazing with it. This is the bigger problem here, not bullying, but how we baby the young generation today. I understand that not everybody is capable to turn the most negative things positive like I am..... no that is wrong, capable is not the right word,  how about strong minded enough. Everybody is capable of it. I know it is not easy, it took me 15 or 16 years to even begin to think about that. But in those years I did not try to kill myself... and I never fully gave up mentally. Now because of my childhood, including being bullied made me a stronger man. It kills me to think of what this generation will not achieve because they are so narrow minded and can't handle somebody who does not like them.

I am going to get to the point where I start rambling about this and the point will get lost, so let me put it in black and white right now.

I do not condone bullies, it is mean, and unnecessary. But it is a part of life. it builds character... if you let it. Kids today for some reason are not taught how to deal with anything negative, and that will ruin their future, and generations after it.

I am glad that I had the school years that I did because it taught me that life is tough, but no matter how bad it gets, I can make it better. Being bullied combined with my experiences in the military and being abused by my biological father made me a strong, unshakable man.


The Meat Hammer



** I would like to note that this highlights the negative of my school years. I had, and still do have great friends from high school, and fantastic memories. ****