The Bully Post

Let me start by saying most of you will be angry at this, some will be surprised, and a select few will agree.

Before I dive into this I want to make very clear, I feel sympathy for kids who get bullied, it sucks. I would never wish for kids to be beat up, depressed suicidal, or anything that comes along with it. Suicide is also something that I am strongly against, I have known many people who have done this to themselves, and many friends who have suffered from it. I have a brother in arms that did this and it kills me to know it happens. I really can not stress these points enough before you read this.

Kids get bullied for a number of reasons, being fat, poor and can't afford the cool clothes, being gay, being mentally ill, having a disorder, stuttering, being a nerd or geek, being a slut, making the wrong popular kid angry, being weak, and a million more. Now kids are getting to the point where they kill themselves or others. This is just sick.... but not for the reason you may think.

Up until the 6th grade I had a great childhood involving school. It was super easy to make friends, nobody really fought or picked on me. In fact, while at I.L. Branch Elementary in California I had a smokin hot girlfriend lol. I kid you not. Then we moved to Alabama and I joined HG middle school for the 6th grade. My entire school experience changed then and lasted until high school graduation. I have no clue why I was one of the kids singled out but I was. For 6 years I was called gay, pushed around, shoved into lockers, beat up, beat up by girls, called every name in the book, the end of every joke, very few friends, always picked last for group sports, even when I was last the team did not want me, in high school (even though I thought I was pretty good) I was singled out when playing football in ROTC, I ran to my next class my freshmen year because I was the guy they wanted in the dumpster on freshmen Friday, all of the things that kids deal with today, I got also. Yes social media as well, I was around for MySpace. I was bullied everyday for 6 years. I wanted to play sports so bad in high school, but I never would because all the guys on the football team were the ones that would beat me up.  I would cry myself to sleep at times, I would beg God to make it stop, even get angry at him for making me go through it. I soon realized that would not happen, and began to embrace the fact that I was unpopular and began to have fun with it. I would give them reasons to laugh at me and somehow that made me feel OK about it all. So I know what it is like to be that kid, and that is why I can say that kids today are too weak minded to handle being picked on, and that is what is sick about bullying.

I now have 2 associates degrees and working on my bachelors, I am building on a second career, I am a decorated NCO in the worlds greatest Air Force, I have fought in a war, I have been around the country and outside of it seeing and doing great things, I own my home and land, I have experienced things that 80% of my graduating class has not, and all of this because I did not kill myself, or the kids who pushed me around.

Now I am friends with most of the people I went to school with, those same guys that would push me around and call me names. We are all older now, and all of that is in the past. If anybody would ever try to apologize to me for it, and they have, I would tell them to stop, because really, I should thank them for making me the man I am today.

Society today has made kids weak minded. I am tired of seeing and hearing all of this anti bully BS. All of these kids hurting themselves, committing suicide and hurting others because they are picked on. They took the weak way out. And I feel strongly that if they didn't do something to themselves now, then later on when they could do more then they would. For example shoot up an office, set off a bomb, become a serial killer, or any number of violent horrific things that they could do when they are adults. It is probably a good thing they are not alive now, it saved more lives in the future. Harsh I know, but I am a realist. Killing yourself or others is a choice, and it is the wrong choice, theses kids were too weak to suck it up and make something of themselves. That is the sad part, these kids could have used all of the negativity and done some amazing with it. This is the bigger problem here, not bullying, but how we baby the young generation today. I understand that not everybody is capable to turn the most negative things positive like I am..... no that is wrong, capable is not the right word,  how about strong minded enough. Everybody is capable of it. I know it is not easy, it took me 15 or 16 years to even begin to think about that. But in those years I did not try to kill myself... and I never fully gave up mentally. Now because of my childhood, including being bullied made me a stronger man. It kills me to think of what this generation will not achieve because they are so narrow minded and can't handle somebody who does not like them.

I am going to get to the point where I start rambling about this and the point will get lost, so let me put it in black and white right now.

I do not condone bullies, it is mean, and unnecessary. But it is a part of life. it builds character... if you let it. Kids today for some reason are not taught how to deal with anything negative, and that will ruin their future, and generations after it.

I am glad that I had the school years that I did because it taught me that life is tough, but no matter how bad it gets, I can make it better. Being bullied combined with my experiences in the military and being abused by my biological father made me a strong, unshakable man.


The Meat Hammer



** I would like to note that this highlights the negative of my school years. I had, and still do have great friends from high school, and fantastic memories. ****